2~3 hours after the evening meal (during Hai period) is the best time for sexual intercourse. Sex and sexual desire is instinctual for human beings. It is as normal as eating. But nowadays, people are constantly pursuing the pleasure of frequent sex, and even take "aphrodisiacs" to be able to perform or engage in sexual intercourse even when they suffer from side effects. There are many misunderstandings about having a healthy sex life.
According to modern research data, the best frequency of sexual activity for middle-aged and elderly people is: 1~2 times a week for those aged 35~45 years; once every 1~2 weeks for those aged 46~65 years; once every two weeks for those aged 66~75 years; once every 3~4 weeks for those aged 76~80 years. The frequency of sexual intercourse should be determined according to the ages and health conditions of different individuals.
As the saying goes, "Only the one who wears it knows whether the show fits." Similarly, the frequency of sex can't be accurately measured with a stopwatch like the 100 meter race, a standard cannot be established that suits all people. The most suitable frequency is determined by the parties involved through communication with each other. This can be judged by looking at whether both husband and wife feel comfortable, normal work the next day is not affected after sex, and they do not have any discomfort.
Appropriate sex can reduce the incidence of heart disease. However, with increasing age, cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases also increase. Too frequent sex, or sex that is too intense, may induce a heart attack due to insufficient blood supply during sex. Therefore, whether or not sex can induce heart diseases should be judged based on the actual conditions of the people involved.
For those with a history of heart disease such as coronary heart disease, if they are tired from recent work, they should not have sex under these conditions because they are more likely to suffer from heart disease. Heart disease is also more likely when men have sex with sex workers who often try their best to stimulate men to reach orgasm as soon as possible (so they can move on to the next client). In this case, because of extreme sexual excitement beyond the heart's tolerance, it is easy to induce heart disease. By the same token, according to foreign statistics, many of the sudden deaths due to sex occur when at least one partner in engaged in an extramarital affair.
For patients who have had coronary heart disease in the past and were treated with 3~6 months of rehabilitation therapies, abstinence is not necessary as long as their conditions are stable according to their ECG, heart rate measurement and other aspects. Patients can gradually return to a normal sex life. But it should be noted that sex should not be too frequent or too intense. The lateral position or positions with the female on top can be adopted. For patients with heart disease, proper sex can improve their quality of life, help them regain confidence in life, and harmonize the relationship between husband and wife. Therefore, it is inappropriate to arbitrarily conclude that all heart disease patients should not have a sex life.
Declining sexual function in elderly people is perfectly natural, but it is also considered a disease by some people. With increased age, some changes take place in the body, such as lower androgen, reduced vascular functions and a decrease in neuromuscular strength. The sexual functions decrease correspondingly, and symptoms related to kidney deficiency, blood stasis and phlegm-heat appear. All these factors gradually lead to the decrease of sexual functions. Therefore, it is both a physiological and also a pathological phenomenon, which is also called physiological kidney deficiency.
The decline in sex function can be an early signal of systemic diseases, a normal sign of aging, or an early manifestation of many different disorders in the body. Whether it should be treated depends on the individual.
Many elderly people purchase drugs such as Deer Velvet (Lù Róng, Cornu Cervi Pantotrichum), bullwhip and donkey whip after listening to advertisements. These are animal tonics for supplementing kidney and warming yang which are used to treat kidney yang deficiency, and yang and essence depletion. If the decline of sexual function is due to kidney essence deficiency, it is beneficial to take these drugs properly and they can also be used as food.
But for those with excess syndromes, some conditions may be aggravated when taking these tonics for supplementing kidney and strengthening yang. Therefore, medicines such as Cornu Cervi Pantotrichum must be taken under the guidance of doctors.
After meals, especially when one is full, most of the blood flows to the digestive tract. At this time, the blood that flows to the corpus cavernosa is reduced. If there is an erection, there may be other problems in the body. In addition, having sex on a full stomach can make one feel sick in the stomach. Drinking alcohol, in moderation, will stimulate the prostate gland and cause dullness when having sex, prolonging the time of intercourse. However, long-term congestion of in the prostate gland can easily lead to prostatitis. Of course, if one drinks too much alcohol, one will not be able to have sex. So drinking is bad for one’s health in the long run.
Light drinking can improve sexual interest, but it is inappropriate to drink too much. Generally speaking, 50 ml of white wine (this will vary between individuals), and 100~150 ml of red wine are suitable.
